How To Become Better At Dating

A 5-minute cheatsheet for those that find the experience awkward

Do you get nervous about dates? I don't know about you. But we do. Dating can be such a gamble. There's a risk for anyone to discover chemistry, banter, or rapport between two people. And, this is not something taught so clearly at school! Yes, the same goes for taxes, money, or even sex education. Instead, we know what a Pythagorean Theorem is. This is utterly useless in the quest to find the right partner.

So, how exactly do you become good at dating? And are there ways to make the experience a lot more enjoyable? And how do we avoid the nasty dates that make us feel like we just wasted our time?

A few weeks ago, we chatted with Vanessa Antonio, a certified matchmaker of Single Events Manila. She gave us some tips based on practicality and science that could be just useful nuggets for you the next time you go on a date again:

• Chivalry is okay. Let the man pay if he asks you out.

• Learn dating advice based on science. 

• Men are hunters, and women are nurturers. These are just biological theories of gender! The sooner you accept that the sooner you can improve your dating life.

• If there is one thing consistent from childhood to your deathbed, it is your temperament. Understand it, and you'll see what you'll be like in dating.

• Dating is a numbers game. The more you date, the more you'll know about yourself.

• There is such a thing as 'love junk'. The man's fluids are made of 10% baby-making solution, and 90% make you more attached.

• On what to wear, wear something you've worn before.

• One of the biggest mistakes we can make is thinking the world owes you something. Be a good person.

• Emotional availability is sexy.

• Think like a man. Act like a lady.

• Pay close attention to the tone of the other person.

• Establish common ground.

• We love a bit of extra reading! Tips on first dates. 

Tonight's Episode (November 25): Work from home is the new normal. And the same goes for people in the sex industry. We chat with Salome Salvi on her newfound career, creative pursuits, and human connections outside of work.