Hello Thirsty Friends,
It's been two weeks of talking about egg freezing from hearing about personal stories, expert advice, and your questions. I loved knowing the probability of my fertility as I inch closer to 35 (Well, 32, really!). And it seems like you did, too, with all the messages we got. On a side note: I have decided to freeze my eggs by January. So, I'll keep you posted on this experience!
This week's newsletter is a topic I struggle with— faith. I'm not the most religious. Although, I can't ignore the fact that the word "hope" has gotten me through the times. And hope is very much related to faith. I'm not here to recommend any religion or prayer, but I'll share stories where faith played wonders in two women's lives: Divine Lee (an entrepreneur/ influencer) and Sam Oh (a radio DJ, podcaster, and host). I'm not sure I believe in miracles, yet their stories make me think twice. Listen to the entire conversation and let me know what you think by sending an email to thirstyandthirty@gmail.com.
Whatever your faith and spirituality are tied to, always work on your moral compass and strive to live with purpose. Lastly, be kind to yourself and others.
What We Learned From Divine Lee
She is an entrepreneur and influencer. She married at 35 and now has two children plus one coming.
Divine Lee has been working since she was young! In her 20s, it was a no-brainer to freeze her eggs. Her logic was if you buy luxury goods, what was the issue with freezing your eggs as insurance for your future? She believes all women have a choice to be prepared so they can make the most of their lives.
Here’s a miracle: She prayed for a partner in the Sacre Coeur Basilica in Paris. She asked for a man who did not live in Manila, a prince, and French. She got a man who lived in Cebu (another city in the Philippines), with French descent, and a business called Prince Warehouse. I’m not making this story up! Watch it here.
Do your research. Find a doctor that explains the process to you with no judgment. Then, make the decision that is sound to your body, mind, and soul. After, ignore the judgment that comes from family, friends, and strangers.
Rather than settling or getting married in a rush, think about your options.
Don’t think about cons too much. Have no regrets.
Commit to someone if you are complete. So you can be a more generous partner.
When we rebound from a long-term relationship, we tend to look for all the qualities our past partners did not have. That cycle can be an unhealthy pattern if we commit too quickly to another.
When you have children, you’ll start to think about death and whatever happens after that. Being single allows you the time to focus on yourself truly.
What We Learned From Sam Oh
Sam Oh is a host on TV/radio and events. She is also a podcaster. She froze her eggs in 2016 but changed her mind about it after converting to Catholicism.
Here's a miracle: In 2016, Sam experienced a tumultuous time in her personal life. A cousin recommended she try a specific kind of prayer— 15 Prayers of St. Bridget. You had to say 15 prayers every day for the entire year. In the end, she would be able to ask for anything! As she finished the prayers, her personal life didn't improve. But, she was overcome with a sudden feeling of joy that made her heal from the heartbreak.
For people dating or couples, be on the same page on the quality of life and values you both want. For Sam, faith is the most important. So, she can't see herself dating someone of a different religion. She advised that we need to stop faking our interests and passions for the sake of wanting to be in a relationship.
It's ok to change your mind if your past decisions no longer align with your values.
Update your belief system and values. We are not the same people in our teens. Think of it as an OS system. We all need to evolve constantly.
How do you show your interest to someone? Be straightforward and say you want to spend time together.
Something to think about
How often do you listen to others? Or do you preach to others?
Do you know what your values are? Have you ever compromised them?
Is there something you want to change your mind on? But you’re too afraid to?
From People We Love
If you’re a slow reader, get on this podcast now, What You Will Learn by two Aussie blokes that sum up books they read— Ashto and Jonesy. They also compiled all their insights in the book The Sh*T They Never Taught You. If you still need convincing on the ROI of books, please listen to this podcast of Mo Gawdat with Ashto.
Next Week
Sunday | Medical Freezing with Ethel (Special Episode on Spotify) | July 18, 10 AM
We talk to Ethel, a 30-something lawyer studying to become a doctor, on why a medical intervention made her freeze her eggs and pursue medicine. We recently published an entire article on Egg Freezing: Why Today’s Women Are Doing It.
Wednesday | Thirsty, Flirty & Thriving (YouTube Live) | July 21, 9PM
We interview the stunning Fenelle Victoria, a single mom currently in New Zealand. We ask her how to enjoy being single, especially for women and men that struggle with being alone. Grab a drink and laugh with us.
Every week, Ciari and I set a goal to make our relationships better. This newsletter is for anyone that wants to improve their personal lives. If you have a friend that might need this right now, share this post.
Also, we’re looking for people to share their stories on the following:
Prenuptial agreements
Runaway brides and grooms
Infidelity & forgiveness
Send us an email at thirstyandthirty@gmail.com if you have a story or would like to refer someone. Have a great weekend!