How To Make Friendship A Bedrock

Thirsty & Thirty’s Skill #4: How To Make Friendship A Bedrock

Spark fades. Friendship doesn't. So many couples on our show mention this advice to Ciari and me. So, this week is all about developing that friendship, which is the bedrock to any healthy relationship— platonic, filial, and romantic.

From Dating News

In a recent Morning Brew newsletter, they claimed that slow and steady wins the date. I couldn't help but laugh at this because I do feel like some of us are rushing towards an imaginary finish line. Perhaps, we tested our patience and solitude too much in the last 1.5 years. The good news is if you are on the dating apps such as Tinder and Bumble there will be some positive changes:

• Tinder now gives you a chance to get to know someone before an actual match through videos and virtual rooms.

• Bumble is doubling down on Bumble BFF. You can make friends now without the risk of COVID-19. This move is perfect for social butterflies that lost their wings during the pandemic.

  Now, what you do with these changes is up to you. Use it for the good, please! Make intentional connections, not superficial ones.

From Our Guests

Danie Laurel is a woman of pure class and intelligence. She is a Bloomberg news anchor, a finance professor, and a columnist. So this conversation is really a wake up call for any woman that doesn’t want to live a life of limiting beliefs.

What We Learned From Her:

• Guys and girls can shoot their shot. Just make sure there are common interests that can lead to a meaningful connection. We loved her honesty on her Instagram love affair.

• Stop thinking about a person’s red or green flags. We are all flawed human beings. It’s about understanding those flaws and seeing if you can accept them.

• Quarantine and virtual communication allow you to focus on quality time. There are no distractions and no superficialities you can hide behind.

Mark & Patty Tiu-Thompson

Before getting married, the couple bonded over music, sports, and humor. The secret to their relationship is that they are best friends above all.

What We Learned From Them

• Don't spend every single hour together. Do things separately and talk about them at the end of the day; that way there is something to be excited about.

• Get honest about vulnerabilities which include money, insecurities, etc. Mark shared that he was anxious about being able to provide at his mid 20s. And Patty assured him that a partnership was about sharing the responsibility. It didn't have to fall on just him.

• Have great respect for each other, whether in your career, how you treat people, and your values in life. If there's no respect, there can't be a good friendship.

From People We Love Right Now

• Yung Pueblo shares the pillars of a healthy relationship, and it's one worth pondering on. 

• I'm halfway through the book "A Field Guide to Happiness: What I Learned in Bhutan about Living, Loving, and Waking Up" by Linda Leaming, and I love her approach to being kinder. Some tips on your friendships: Make tea for people, use humor and give small gifts. It's a book that will make you smile!

Something to Think About

1. Who would you want to be stuck in an elevator with for 24 hrs?

2. Who would you want to go on a weekend road trip with?

3. What does friendship mean to you?

4. How can you be a good friend?

Every week, Ciari and I set a goal to make our relationships better. This newsletter is for anyone that wants to improve their personal lives. If you have a friend that might need this right now, share this post. 

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Next Week

Pandemic Romance Win - Episode 11, June 30, 2021, Wednesday 9 PM — Who remembers our catfishing episode? We guested Jzan Tero. And towards the end of the episode, we got a sneak peek into her budding relationship with Dorian. Less than a year after, they made it work by crossing borders to see each other. We'll ask about their secrets to a sustainable pandemic romance.

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