Thirsty & Thirty’s Skill #5: How To Make Your Pandemic Romance A Success
Jzan, an amazing transgender woman, was our guest last season on catfishing. This time around, she is back on better terms. She met Dor from Istanbul through Tinder (Yes, you can meet someone good on Tinder premium!) In our recent episode, She and Dor shared their love story of how they progressed from a virtual to a real relationship. Also, we learned a few practical tips on keeping the fire burning in a long-distance setting:
Both people need to apply effort no matter what their circumstances are. Jzan had a side note that she doesn’t recommend giving 100% effort before seeing each other physically. You can date others until you finally see each other. Do you agree or disagree?
You can develop a deep connection virtually. Focus on emotional and mental engagement. Dor believes that you can fall in love with someone’s personality.
Let’s be honest, though. Physical connection is essential. Commit to seeing each other. Jzan and Dorian promised to see each other after four months of chatting online. They reunited in Africa. Since then, they’ve made a few trips overseas. Jzan is in Bangkok right now waiting for her visa to Istanbul.
About seeing each other, be honest on financial and logistical arrangements. If two people want to see each other, they can be adults and talk about it. We’ve heard some situations where the man pays for the ticket. Other times, it’s dutch. There is no one size fits all. Just be transparent and honest about it.
It would help if you had an end goal. If you see spending your life with that other person, then it’s worth it to plan towards a united goal.
Maintain solid and constant communication. Don’t just tell each other what you’ve done. Tell each other what you felt for the day.
Keep the visual contact! Texting doesn’t cut it. Send photos, videos and go on video calls. Relish in sexual tension.
Spice it up with the virtual hangouts. Jzan and Dor got some virtual reality headsets to hang out with each other.
Time apart is just as important as time together. Give each other space to do other things outside of the relationship. Trust is crucial here.
Express your care through gifts or gestures. Dor sent Jzan some ice cream through Food Panda when she was having a bad day.
Our favorite tip: be kind to each other! Be a safe space for each other.
Keep in mind that these tips above are what worked for Jzan and Dorian. Of course, every situation is different. If you’d like to share your own story, reply to this email and we are happy to listen.
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